We all know what we should do to become healthier, thinner, stronger, or smarter. We have to do something different from what we are used to in our daily routine.
For example, for a healthier body, we have to work out and make healthier food choices. But no matter how good our intentions are, most of the time, we only go half-way. Sadly most of the time, sooner or later, we give up.
Why does this happen?
Everyday routine can make you give up on your goals. Many things challenge you daily and result in giving up on what you want to achieve.
Change is something that we resist; it doesn’t feel comfortable. No matter how much we can gain by achieving our goals, our fear can get in the way and sabotage our happiness.
Wouldn’t you like to have a healthier body, a better job, a better relationship?
All that might sound good, but can you handle it?
You are setting big goals
If you never went for a run around your block, then setting a goal to become a marathon athlete is a recipe for failure. Don’t get me wrong; if you set your mind to it, you can achieve it, but at the same time, you have to be realistic.
The problem isn’t being optimistic and setting a big goal or having high ambitions about what you want in your future.
When these goals are too demanding, you can quickly end up giving upon them. We are human beings, not superheroes, and our daily routines, problems, habits can easily lead us to failure.
Is there a solution?
Of course, there is, it’s breaking down big goals into smaller steps. Like preparing for a marathon, you cannot just decide to do it one day and compete the next day; you’ll fail.
You have to start working out, find a trainer, watch your diet, and be consistent with all of these. Over time you will get better, and you’ll become more confident.
Combat negative self-beliefs
In India, elephants living in captivity when they are little are being chained or tied up to a tree. Of course, the animals try to escape time after time, but no matter how hard they try, they cannot escape.
The elephants are babies and don’t have the strength to break the chains. At some point, they give up.
When elephants grow up, they become mighty creatures; however, they are held captive in the same way, by a rope or a chain identical to the one when they were little. How come they don’t try to escape?
They never try to break the chains because they believe they can’t. Their mind believes that they cannot free themselves because they tried to escape in the past and never succeeded.
Can you relate to that?
We all have self-limiting beliefs that hold us back; our mindset can stop us from finding happiness in our lives.
Stop it before it is too late. There is no point in having regrets in our lives. If we tried something in the past and you failed, it doesn’t mean that you’ll never succeed in your life.
When our mind gets stuck to these types of beliefs, then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your past isn’t your future, be brave, and don’t fear mistakes.
When you fail at something, that doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It’s not your identity; it’s a result of an action that didn’t work out. By trying out different ways to approach a problem and not giving up, you’ll finally succeed.
“Success means going from one failure to another without loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill
Remember, there is no failure, only feedback.
Like babies, when they try to walk, they fail time and time again, but keep on trying. Imagine if, after a couple of times of trying to learn how to walk, they gave up what would happen. None of us would be walking.
Discomfort is a skill
Every time you start something new and set a new goal, you feel uncomfortable. It is only natural; every one of us sucks at any task we do for the first time.
When we are young we don’t think about it, we don’t mind, and it doesn’t annoy us. However, when we grow up, our mind freezes from fear about what other people might think about us.
Will we look silly, stupid, incompetent, not good enough?
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” – Dr. Seuss.
If you care about people’s opinions, then you will always be at least mediocre. How can you please everyone? There will always be someone who disagrees with you, your choices and opinions.
Just let yourself be you, in your way, and unique path. Don’t try to copy others or play it safe because you won’t be happy in your life. The only way to not fail is to do nothing.
Learn to love the feeling of being uncomfortable and enjoy learning a new skill, of changing your habits and daily routine.
Fear and excitement
When you want to make significant changes in your life, it can become quite challenging. You might want to change your career and follow another path, start your own business or move to another company. It can feel exciting but frightening at the same time.
These emotions are the same; they’re triggering the same feelings and bodily sensations. They are just the other side of the coin. The way we associate these feelings in our brains is what makes the difference.
If we choose to feel fear, we freeze and never accomplish anything. Contrary, if we decide to feel excited, our mind stays focused on the task ahead, we find solutions and become more creative.
Breath of fresh air
Challenging yourself by learning new skills and switching your daily routine can have a fantastic result. It can make you feel alive.
Learning and trying out new experiences is what our mind and body like and crave. That is why working out can have such a tremendous effect on our overall psychology.
As kids, we had fun playing games, we never thought about time hours would pass, and it would feel as if they were minutes.
When we grow up, we stop playing this way. But what if we approach all these new challenges as if they were games? It would bring down our ego and let us enjoy the process of learning. The journey is what’s most important, not only the destination.
Ego is our worst enemy
Are you always complaining about your job, your life, your relationship, or your friends? Life doesn’t happen to you; it happens for you.
Your fear of change and of being wrong can sabotage your entire life. Break this vicious cycle by creating change in your life and by evolving. Take the risk and move on.
If your job is making miserable, find a new one. If your relationship isn’t alive anymore, let it go. There is no point in living an unhappy life because we fear change.
Having regrets is the worst thing that can happen to you. Every single one of us has the power in their hands to make their life a beautiful one.